We all seek love and companionship, but modern dating has become increasingly complex. Trends such as monkey branching, where a person jumps from one relationship to another instead of addressing issues, and ghosting, where one partner suddenly disappears, have become common. Another emerging trend in the dating world is ‘Avalanching.’ But what exactly is avalanching in relationships, what does it reveal about the person doing it, and how can one avoid it? Read on to learn more and protect yourself from potential heartbreak.
What is Avalanching in Relationships?
Avalanching in relationships occurs when a person persistently swipes right on dating apps, constantly messages others to show romantic interest, or comes on too strong before even starting to date. This behavior resembles an avalanche, overwhelming others to ensure they are not left alone. People often exhibit this behavior to find a partner, especially for specific occasions like Valentine’s Day or New Year’s, when the fear of being alone is heightened.
Avalanching is not considered healthy. Individuals who engage in this behavior often compromise their dating preferences, ignore red flags, and neglect their non-negotiables such as age, looks, or location. Consequently, such relationships tend to be short-lived and often end in ghosting or break-ups. If two people who are both avalanching end up dating, their relationship is unlikely to grow and survive over time.
What Does Avalanching Reveal About Someone’s Personality?
People who avalanche in relationships often lack self-confidence and personal boundaries. They may have a low self-concept and seem willing to settle for less, which can make them appear desperate to potential partners. This behavior suggests they do not know how to be alone and do not love themselves enough. If one cannot enjoy their own company, it is difficult for others to enjoy being with them.
According to reports from some dating apps, most people engage in avalanching during the lead-up to Valentine’s Day or the holiday season, driven by a fear of missing out (FOMO) rather than genuine intentions of finding true love. This often results in compromising in relationships and missing out on long-lasting love.
From a psychological perspective, those who avalanche may have an Anxious Attachment Style or an Anxious-Avoidant Attachment Style. They might display anxious behaviors such as constantly texting, calling, or checking in on their (potential) partner, rather than being secure in themselves and believing they are loved regardless of the situation. This behavior can repel or overwhelm their partners. Additionally, people desperate for love rather than finding the right partner may end up in abusive relationships.
What Can One Do Instead?
Since avalanching is unhealthy, people who engage in it should stop, pause, and reflect on their actions. Instead of avalanching, they can switch to intentional dating. This involves taking time to understand themselves and their expectations better, getting to know a person slowly, and not rushing into a relationship. It is essential to find a partner who aligns with one’s goals and desires and to understand that falling in love takes time and patience.
Signs You Are Being Avalanched
To identify if you are being avalanched, look for certain signs. If someone is only interested in you until they secure a date, they might ghost you afterward. A genuine person will never make you question their intentions or feelings. They will not manipulate you or make you feel insecure but will support you and make you feel valued.
Another sign of avalanching is excessive jealousy or controlling behavior. While some possessiveness is natural, someone who is avalanching may be insecure about being left alone, especially before significant occasions like Valentine’s Day or New Year’s.
Conclusion
Love requires time, patience, and mutual effort to grow. Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, clear and honest communication, shared values, and love. Instead of rushing into relationships that may lead to heartbreak, take your time to find long-lasting love and companionship.
